There is no greater honour than being asked to be the Best Man at a wedding. However, it can be nerve-racking for anyone. There is plenty to think about including planning an amazing stag day to wave him off. Even before you get around to writing a funny and heartfelt speech for the big day itself. So, to help you make sure that you can be the perfect Best Man, we have put together a list of some of the The do’s and don’ts of being a Best Man that may just be worth your while to read through.
Do help the groom
Weddings can be daunting, and chances are that your pal will be lost in a sea of suits, cufflinks and shoes. I see this all the time! Whilst a Best Man is often seen to be the party arranger, the fun time friend. The groom is likely to really value any help you give him. He is not only there to make sure he has everything that he needs, but also that his wife-to-be is happy and not nagging him too!
A great way to really go the extra mile is to help the groom find the perfect gift for his wife for the big day.
Don’t be something that you are not, especially during the speeches
If you are someone that is naturally funny, then the bride and groom are likely to expect you to be the joker during the speeches. So, embrace your natural humour and write a speech that is going to make people laugh.
The same can be said if you are not particularly humorous. The idea behind the Best Man speech is that it is a summary of the life of the groom. As well as an interesting or embarrassing story or two. This should be your aim. Don’t try to be funny if it doesn’t come naturally to you. Instead just write a speech that is from the heart, and you will feel perfectly confident about delivering it on the day!
How often do you see a best man cutting some shapes on the dance floor during a wedding reception? Chances are that they will be letting their hair down after the stress and nerves of the big day.
A great way to go above and beyond when it comes to being a Best Man is to get some of the special ladies from the big day involved. Grab the mothers and give them a spin. Make sure that none of the bridesmaids are sat on the side-lines and let the flower girls have a boogie with you too. Keeping all these important ladies smiling is a great way to keep on the good side of the bride!
Don’t be selfish!
Being a Best Man isn’t easy, but neither is being the groom. Don’t just think about how you are feeling, but how he is doing too. Find out if there is anything he needs to help him stay calm for the ceremony… perhaps taking him for a stiff drink beforehand. Make sure that he has eaten, and if needed, give his tie a straighten too!
The key is to remember that there is a reason why you were asked to be the Best Man. So be the Best Man that you can be!